Dani authors the blog Mom’s Crazy Life. In the past Dani and I have exchanged advice back and forth regarding blogging and a few personal questions. This past Tuesday, however, Dani chose to ask a question of an even more personal nature and asked it openly in the comments section of this blog. Considering that, I hope she doesn’t mind me responding publicly as well.
I have a question for you. I hope you don’t mind. I figured I’d ask considering you’ve given me such great advice before. Okay, I have this woman at work whom is nothing but a spiteful b*tch. She does everything and anything in her power to try and make me miserable. I really don’t think anything has ever been provoked for I don’t recall ever doing anything to her at all. She continuously makes snidey comments and remarks and basically makes working unbearable. Do you have any suggestions?
I think it’s time you put this woman in her place. You are a nurse in a medical facility so you have many options. Personally, I’d give her some anesthesia and place her on a gurney to have a kidney taken out. Hell, you could even sell her kidney on the black market.
If you are unwilling to do that then I think you need to talk with this bitch. Don’t be confrontational. If she gets upset and tries to make it into a fight, don’t allow her to drag you down. You can’t control her reactions, but you can control yours. This could be all it takes to get down to the bottom of the problem. It could even be a complete misunderstanding.
If a discussion doesn’t work then your other option is to go to your boss. You may feel uncomfortable doing so and feel you’ll just be causing problems, but then you need to accept your choice and just deal with it. Any good manager will refuse to allow discourse in the office. As a manager, my rule always was that my employees didn’t have to be friends but they did have to treat each other with respect.
One important question to ask, however, is she sleeping with the boss? If that’s the case then you can expect nothing to be done. In fact, bringing the issue up could get you fired. On the other hand, if you are certain she is not sleeping with the boss then you might want to consider doing so. That is an excellent way to ensure no one in the office messes with you.
If you find that she doesn’t respond well by speaking with her and your boss refuses to do anything about the situation then I highly recommend considering a transfer or going to another facility. No one should have to work under those conditions. As frustrating as it may be, all the choices you follow and decisions you make are yours. You can’t force another person to change. In life, the ball is almost always in your court.
~ Uncle Bradley