What the Hell is Going on?

Well over a month ago I swore I was going to post an overall update soon. Well, it’s past soon, but here I finally am to tell what the hell is going on with me.

Nervous About my Nervous System

This is probably the most frustrating thing going on in my life right now. Here’s a quick and dirty synopsis. The good news is still that the tumor in my head is not likely to kill. I absolutely hate that it’s there. I mean, who the hell wants to know they have a brain tumor? At least it’s just sitting there doing nothing and because of its location it’s best left where it is rather than trying to remove it.


So, I don’t think I’ve ever explained why I went to a neurologist in the first place. It all has to do with my ulnar nerve, which runs from the shoulder/under arm, across your elbow and down to the hands. I had pain that ran from under my arm and down along that nerve. My hand didn’t hurt, but my right pinky finger and ring finger are always numb with occasional tingling. My movement with those two fingers is pretty restricted. For example, I can no longer do the Vulcan hand symbol. Thankfully, I don’t have much of a reason to ever do that, but if I ever go to Vulcan, they’ll likely believe I’m extremely rude. All those problems are almost always related to TOS, which is thoracic outlet syndrome. I’ll spare the details other than somewhere my ulna nerve is getting severely pinched.

My neurologist did some tests and came up with the TOS diagnosis and referred me over to my neurosurgeon. Based on my MRI’s, my surgeon determined I have no neurological problems and therefore must see a hand surgeon. I did share my MRI results, of which there are three, with my neurologist, my physical therapist and a friend who is a retired radiologist who specialized in neurology. All of them told me, in so many words, that my surgeon is nuts and I need to get a second opinion. I have an appointment scheduled with a different neurosurgeon next month. I’ll keep you posted on his diagnosis.

On the positive side, physical therapy has eradicated all the pain. I’m also able to use chopsticks again, though I still have the numbness and tingling which needs to be corrected.

South America

Some of you may recall that after Trump won the election Maurice and I were determined to leave the wonderful US of A. We’re still terrified at what is happening in our country, but we have calmed down since then. We still plan to move, but aren’t rushing. We have obligations, including family, that have priority right now, We are likely to move in the future, just not sure when.

When I said we were leaving I focused on Uruguay, and it’s still in the running, but we’re leaning towards Ecuador these days. Yes, many consider it a third world country, but there are many expats who would argue.

There are several reasons for the switch from Uruguay to Ecuador.

First, is weather. From the mountains to the Amazon to the coast, you have many environmental choices. Uruguay, on the other-hand is hot and muggy in the summer and cold and wet in the winter.

Second, Ecuador is a much shorter, and less expensive trip to and from the U.S.

Third, the cost of living is very low. A beautiful oceanfront apartment with 24 hour security, and luxurious amenities can run as low as $1,000/month. Compare that to our very tiny, old LA apartment that is more expensive.

The fourth, and final, reason is that people in Ecuador are damned friendly and super happy. I chat with expats regularly from all over the world via Facebook and Message Boards. Sure, each of the countries has people that packed up and came back home with their tails between their legs, but those in Ecuador seem happiest and more settled than any other country I’ve investigated. My number of Facebook friends has increased dramatically since establishing friends in Ecuador. Now, before you caution me that what I learn on Facebook can be entirely different than real life, I stress I’m completely aware of this, but it’s a good place to start.

There are several cities and towns in Ecuador that I’ve spent a lot of time researching.

This picture is of Montañita, a popular surfing village where the fun never ends. It’s year-round population is only about 1,000 people, though there’s always many more around, especially during the peak season.
Montanita

This picture is of El Otro Lado, an open air gay bar in Montañita. It looks fun…and I hear it is.
Gay bar

The picture below is of Salinas. Another city in the running. It has about 50,000 people year-round.
Salinas

This final pic is of Cuenca. It has a population of 400,000. It’s not near the ocean. In fact it’s about 8,200 feet above sea level. It has the largest expat community in Ecuador.
Cuenca

Where we decide to move, which we’ll say Ecuador for now, we plan to start with a two-week, or longer, exploratory tour. That trip will hopefully give us an idea of what city and town we want to settle in and we’ll do so for one year. At the end of that year we’ll then be able to make the determination to stay wherever we are, try out another location in Ecuador, or head back to California. We figure we can tolerate and survive anywhere for a year and perceive it as an adventure regardless of where we end up.

To follow my rule of keeping posts below 1,000 words, I’ll abruptly stop here. More updates to come tomorrow.

  23 comments for “What the Hell is Going on?

  1. May 5, 2017 at 12:09

    Bradley
    Sounds like you have a level head about living in another country. I believe seeing the world piece by piece expand our mind and understand if life outside of our bubble.
    As for the neurologist, I’ve been down this road many times, my neuropathy is is bad I can’t feel my hands of feet. If not extremely painful or disabling your daily activities, it might be best to let it go. Having Lyme has taught me about pain, nerves and most functions of my body. They all hurt sometimes, it’s varying degrees. I choose to look for medication for my neuropathy since it’s hard to say if feeling will return or not.
    Don’t net pain drive your life, don’t let thinking about pain/numbness drive your life.
    Wish you all the best.
    M

    • Bradley
      May 5, 2017 at 13:30

      Thank you. Wise words that I will take into account while I decide what to do.

  2. May 4, 2017 at 07:16

    Looks like you’ll be living in paradise!

  3. May 2, 2017 at 12:28

    Great to hear from you again. You’ve been sorely missed. I hope you can get that nerve problem sorted out and taken care of soon. When you move, I know you’ll have a great time getting to know the environment and the people there, which will keep you quite busy. I hope you’ll continue writing posts to let us all know how you are doing and to share some of your adventures with us. I’m glad you’re back.

    • Bradley
      May 2, 2017 at 12:34

      Thank you, Journey. I promise, wherever I end up I’ll keep posting.

  4. May 1, 2017 at 15:52

    We have missed you! So good to hear from you Bradley!

    • Bradley
      May 1, 2017 at 17:16

      Thank you avaswan

  5. May 1, 2017 at 12:55

    Glad to get this update! I hope all goes well.

    • Bradley
      May 1, 2017 at 13:18

      Good to hear you enjoyed this update. Figured I need to let people know I’m still around.

  6. May 1, 2017 at 11:55

    You know even if your Captaiin has been quiet on LoseIt!, she still adores you! 😉

    Good to see you here & get the update about your health, the eventual move, etc.

    XoXo mucho!
    Captain Dyane

    p.s. I like your 1000 & below word rule; I need & want to abide to that rule as well!

    • Bradley
      May 1, 2017 at 12:14

      Hi Dyane! My goal is to keep it below 700 words. If it’s more than a 1,000, I will break it up into two separate posts, if possible. My monkey brain has a hard time reading long blog posts and I’m sure many others do as well, That’s why I have the rule.

  7. Iggy
    May 1, 2017 at 10:52

    Welcome Back! You have been terribly missed!

    • Bradley
      May 1, 2017 at 10:54

      I’ve terribly missed all of you

  8. May 1, 2017 at 10:48

    Good to hear from you, Bradley! I say, if you can make that sort of move, go and discover what it’s like to be a US expat! I hear it’s all the rage. Life may be short, but it’s also long enough to live many lives.

    • Bradley
      May 1, 2017 at 10:57

      Great hearing from you too, Anthony. Due to my previous job I’ve been lucky enough to have lived across the USA been to a few exotic places as well, but nothing to the degree that we are planning. When the move happens, I plan to stay in touch and keep on blogging.

  9. May 1, 2017 at 09:36

    WOW! I wish I had a life-partner who I could go on adventures with like this! This sounds fun and exciting!! Great for you! And great to hear from you!!!!

    • Bradley
      May 1, 2017 at 10:58

      It does sound fun and exciting, doesn’t it? We have no idea when it will happen, but it will and I can hardly wait.

      • May 1, 2017 at 11:04

        I am green with envy!! Can’t wait to follow along! You have to promise to keep writing!!!

        • Bradley
          May 1, 2017 at 11:06

          I do promise, however it is a much more laid back society so I’ll be typing very slow.

          • May 1, 2017 at 11:07

            Now you’re just rubbing it in! Delighted for you.

  10. May 1, 2017 at 09:11

    So good to hear from you again! I’ve missed you.

    • Bradley
      May 1, 2017 at 10:59

      Thank you, Janet. It’s good to be missed. I’ve missed you as well.

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